Date: 14.06.2009
From: jill
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Subject: Spouse support/families?
Hi, me again, being nosey how does your spouse cope with your condition, or dont u mention it anymore? mb keep it all to yourself?for me I guess its just part of our lives, hes a goodun and knows when im peed off, or in pain, becoz I TELL him LOL, makes me feel better when ive said im tired or in pain, becos I carry a lot of guilt with this friggging disease, Im also suppose to be having a spine op, mb this year, seeing surgeon in aug, but I feel its such a huge burdon on my family, particularly my fella, becos he will have to do all the running around with the kids, trips etc to skool, and all the cooking and housework, makes me feel a huge problem... im n ot that use to my family doing everything, mind u, not that I an anyway, but I try to do what I can, it took me 8 months to get over my last spine op in 2003, also I got depressed, but mainly its the Guilt I feel, Like i shld be pushing myself. even after my last 4 ops, i felt guilt, I hate that... I always tell everyone to be kind to themselves, I shld do the same, but i struggle withthat.. .oh well, im rambling now and moaning, but I just wanted to know if others feel like I do, with their pain, or operations and recovery, or just in general day to day stuff, that we all have to deal with Jill x
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