Date: 20.05.2009
From: Sharon72
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Subject: Re: Going off SEX !!!
HI amelia You dont know how good it is to have someone experiencing the same thing (i mean that in the nicest way poss) i have been like you for the last 3 years i know its hard to deal with for both of you but it does get better slowly my worst times are through the winter mths ( i can hardly walk let alone anything else) as your med kicks in and they try and help you control the pain and inflamation you will find things get easier my poor hubby knows exactly how your man feels but if you involve him in your app and give him the leaflets to read i am sure this will help hin umderstand things a lot better. I did go to the docs and i got put on anti depress tabs as apparently i was low and this was why i had gone off sex (obviously this didnt work) so i gave up trying to explain and we just deal with it from day to day, just remember you will have good and bad days. Hope it helps to know you are not alone. Take care Sharon72
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Date: 21.05.2009
From: Jill
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Subject: Re: Going off SEX !!!
Hi Amelia Sharon is correct there, your arnt alone, and u are allowed to moan on here, thats y this forum exists lol... I dont think ive accepted my diseasse at all really, I have REITERS disease, and Inflamatory arthritis, and Disc Disease(DDD),and Cervical Spondy(neck) still angry, had this since 26, but was midiagnosed for years. Regards SEX.......I cant be botherd , sex drive dont exist for me, im toooo tired! im also on anti depressants for anxiety over this disease, as two Years ago, I had three corrective Ops within a 10 month period ( one on shoulder, two on hips), but all in all ive had 7 ops in 6 years, so I get truly pissed off, as it does affect our partners, bf, and hubbys and family...¦But most of the time I do stay upbeat, think staying Upbeat for my family Drains my sexual urges LOLOL talk to your Bf ok, like Sharon said, involve him in all your appts at hosp etc, truly opens up their eyes to what u have to go thru, when they hear the Specialist talk to u about your R.A. and your BF hears your reply back to rhumatologist, they kinda then realise this disease is in fact Real! Also most of the time I look a Picture of health, so family and friends and partners, dont realise that we are still in pain, so U do need them to know what is happening and involving them in your condition.....sorry rambling here so all in all your not alone, hey get your BF to read these replies to u.... and he will know that we dont always want Sex, just a HUG is nice(no pressure helps stress levels) It will sort out good in end ok
take care
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