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Date: 04.06.2015
From: desperategofirl

Subject: help

Hi
I'm am writing this just to vent and get any help possible! I don't know where to begin. I guess I could start with the fact that I'm writing through tears. I just got myself locked in my room! I have my dominant right hand casted from arthroplasty of my thumb. My left thumb has the same arthritic issue but my right was worse so we did it first. I just lost it! I'm only 48 but my surgeon says I've got 70/80 year old genes. Last year I had orthoscopy on my right knee and the year before that it was my left knee. They said I need knee replacements but I'm too young and too heavy. They hurry so bad!
On top of all that I have fibromyalgia with the arthritis. I take pain pills and I hate it! It has caused so much anguish! I feel like my life is over. And I have young children and a full time job!! Any advise? Should I just give up? I sometimes feel like it!!
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Date: 04.06.2015
From: lois

Subject: Re: help

Hi there, firstly welcome to the forum. This is the right place to come if you want to shout scream vent some anger or just a little chat.

Sorry you are not having a good time at the minute.
It does feel like everything is getting too much sometimes. Take a step back and try to put it all in too perspective. You are by the sounds of it getting all the right help from your Drs.

When you are young you do feel a bit robbed I did myself. I have had OA since my 30's and I would like a pound for every time some one said how can you have that it's an old persons disease. Well we both know Arthritis doesn't mind who it chooses. I am 64 now so 30 odd years and I am still here enjoying my life maybe a little differently.

I lock myself away when I feel at my worst just for time out I stay off the forum as well. Maybe I shouldn't but that is how I cope.

Hats off to you a full time job and young children to deal with. You sound like you are managing very well.

Weight is a big issue for lots of Arthritis people me included I have to be very careful and I have weight to lose again but summer is here and lots of salad and fresh veg in the shops oh and of course lovely fruit. Just kidding myself it will be hard but once I get my mind fixed I will achieve it. So will you.

I have had a couple of surgeries for my Arthritis and of course it makes us feel low. Get over the surgery and you will feel the benefit and that will be another hurdle crossed.

What pain meds are you on. Some are ok some are much better. You might be better to ask if you can go to a pain Clinic.

Never ever give up you have no idea what a great job you are doing working bringing up a family well done you.
Remember you have to take time out for you treat yourself Cinema Theatre out for a Meal a walk along the River. Get your Nails or Hair done just anything that is just for you. Some times MUMS forget just who they are. We just get caught up in the having no time for ourselves.
I hope this little chat helps you realise you are not alone and this forum is here for you when ever you need to shout or say help.
I guess you must be on sick leave (I hope). Put your feet up watch some old films the children will be fine and the job will be waiting.

Take care and a gentle (((hug))) is winging it's way to you. xxx
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Date: 04.06.2015
From: SammyO

Subject: Re: help

Hello
About 6 months ago, I was at the end of my tether, my steroid meds were all over the place and I felt so desperate, like you I was typing through the tears and I wanted to give up, but some really kind people who visit this site lifted me up, pointed me in the right direction to get some help and reminded me that I needed to be kind to myself and give myself a break. Back then I never thought things would get any better, but they have little bit by little bit and Im hoping they will for you too.

For me I had to get my meds right and have the confidence to stand up for myself to the dr and say that I needed more help.
I spoke to my manager and got an OT referral and this has been a godsend, my desk now looks like StarShip Command and my working week has changed
I even got a blue parking badge .. never dreamt of applying before !

Dont give up hope .... things can get better.

Take care of you and come back to let us know how you are xx
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