Date: 23.04.2010
From: Amelia
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Subject: Home visit !!!!
Hi all just wanted to let you all know that i got a letter this morning from dla, they are coming to my house to give me a medical examination! I'm not sure wether this is a good thing or a bad thing but i am feeling pretty nervous about it lol Why do they make us feel like this grrrr. So was wondering if anyone had any tips for me or could advise me on what to expect. Thanks Amelia
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Date: 23.04.2010
From: karen
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
hi not sure as i havent had one but good luck am sure if your just yourself ona bad day its bloody stupid that they comin to your house as this puts extra stress on this illness as it is .xxx
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Date: 23.04.2010
From: maz
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Make sure you are prepared
for a doctorâs visit. Find out more about becoming a Benefits and
Work member and getting instant access to all our step-by-step DLA
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Excellent site. good luck Amelia, im sure all will be fine. xx
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Date: 24.04.2010
From: jill
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Hi Amelia, in the past i had to go to a place to have a medical!id rather thery had come to my house....when i had my medical, he examined me first, head to foot, pressed. touched every joint etc, awaiting your response(they dont have Xray eyes) anyway, in my experience that day(hated it) asked me to get undressed to underwear, asked me to walk!! towards, him and away from him, that way he did a little maths exercise and decided to double, treble the walking distance that I cld do!...He refused to listen to me that every step hurt, so even if i cld walk a miole, didnt matter, id hurt all that distance!....after that losts of medical questions, like, do/can u work, how do u get thru a regualr day, who helps, who washes u, etc etc.....it took about 2 hours in all, mb less, seeemed forever......he also asked me where I had parked, and how did I manage walking there.......anyway, for me my money didnt go up that time.....i felt uncomfortable, becos the blidddy receptionist was the chaperone when i got undressed, i felt bad........ now Amelia, I was Not prepared that day at all!!!....this is y im telling u my expeience..... Have someone with u...
tell him how bad things r 4 u,
the mefs u r on(he will ask u all this anyway, and then get u to sign it!! then he will ask how far u can walk, without pain
if u dont know, he will guess for u, by getting u to walk to him!(JOKE)....they r concerend more about the Mobility of things, not the other joints in reference to getting DLA!! its about the walking, if he think u can walk ok, ya wont gert the DLA! simpple as that, so if u r sufffering with walking, painful ankles, feet, joints, hips, back, LET him KNOW, and Emphasise how bad it is!!...mb U dont go walking, tell him that........dont let my experience affect the one your having, yours may go brill, but want U to know what may happen, after all u r having a diff doctor, mine was weird! and in a dingy old bulinding, was NOT a doctors offfice at all!!...think it was one where druggies go for their methodone!! honest, it was diabloical...... so just remember, stay calm, U have Nowt wo hide, tell him How bad it is each day....he will guide u with th questions....and as u ansa them, he writes down every word u say, then U sign it!! legal document!......have a freind/family with u/hubby etc, dont do this alone ok....and most of all....DONT FEEL INTIMIDATED!!... when i the medical happening?? xx
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Date: 24.04.2010
From: JILL
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
btw, he will watch your every move!...body language etc....so if for example u get Up from sitting down, he will watch u, watch your stance,he will watch the way U sit back down.....all the stuff we do now via readapting our selves, just want u to know....if u want to offer him /her a cuppa, get ya m8 to do it, NOT U!! will count against u...little things like that xx
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Date: 24.04.2010
From: Amelia
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Thanks Jill your advice means a million to me, my bf will be here he is unemployed at the mo bless him so he can make the tea and answer the door to him/her lol My only concern is although i struggle everyday i go to college aswell and wondered if that would go against me? but my great mates at college help me with everything from note taking to giving me lifts home etc.. I don't drive so i get lifts everywhere. I am sorry you had a bad experience with yours the first time, i was suprised they come to the house to be honest. The letter states they will have a look round my house too. Not sure when they will come out to see me i have to await there call so could be ages yet lol I know what you mean about the walking thing they asked alot about walking distance etc.. in the original forms daft really isn't it grrrr. Thanks again for your advice i will keep you all posted xx
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Date: 24.04.2010
From: jill
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Hi Amelia, when it gets to the questions about College,U r entitled to go to college, ppl go to work and still get high rate DLA....just expolain that yiur very good m8s help u with your care etc, like geting lifts to work, writing notes etc, tell him all that....it wont go against u, mention taht U are NOT going to rot at home, that U do Push yourself, and daily its a struggle, but for your m8s, u wldnt cope, but as U do cope, altho in pain, their helping u mentally and emotionally helps u push on......mention u use ya crutch at college etc, where ever ok....use it in the house too, I wld rather they come to my house, I will be better prepared, it wasnt that I was being dishonest, but it all went against me, becos I drove there, had to walk upstairs to his room etc, yet I was having a real bad day that day!....U remain Positive Amelia, and get ya bf to say that whilst hes not working, he does all the clkeaning etc, cooking etc, whilst yiour at college OK.....good luck for when the time comes xx
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Date: 25.04.2010
From: Abbie
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Crikey! I've just broken out in a cold sweat and started breathing funny reading this. I'm just re applying for my DLA as my situation has really worsened and i'm scared stiff! Argh! X
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Date: 25.04.2010
From: Amelia
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Hiya Abbie well this is the first time i have applied and it's making me feel really nervous! But on the other hand i am remaining postive about it as the letter says that they need to asess which level i will get so hopefully means i will get summat if you know what i mean! Good luck with yours let us know how you get on x
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Date: 25.04.2010
From: jill
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Abbie....Please dont be scared, this, as I said is from my Personal experience, shite, but true....and I wanted to warn Amelia, Amelia respects my truth, as I do hers,Known her a long time, and will be honest no matter what, but will always add that its MY personal experience, sounds Negative I know, but seriously, as I also mentioned that doc was well weird! Again I was unwell, and he didnt see that, and I did not get an increase, there was questions that was not necessary to my case, and annoyed me..... Anyway on a brighter Note, fill out the new forms as best as ya can, cant see y U dont get it tho Abbie, and I think they choose people randomly for mediclas, I have a rotten feeling that im goona have another, I got a letter thru the other day, and I assumed I got my DLa, misread it, was just about a slight increase, so still waiting for my DLA claim...due by end June!And like U, Im worried....becos ive also got worse, and will go to tribunal if I dont receive it!....like U say Abbie, Your condition has got worse,fingers crosssed U will get your entitlement......tcv Jill x
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Date: 25.04.2010
From: jill
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Amelia, I didnt realise that this was your first claim(i forget things),didnt want to upset u with my experience, but I deffo wanted to warn u about the other stuff they watch out for.....usually in first claims they often refuse flat out, thats what some of the members, including myself had happened to, so I think that U r getting a home visit is good!..¦I did get my dla on 2nd claim(littlest as poss) and over the years, I protested, and appeal, tribunal etc, and eventually got what I deserve.....awaiting for mine , sent it off ages ago, not heard, apart fromn the increase, and I hadnt read my letter prop, and shouted to bf that I"ive got it", then he rad it a few hour later and said "No ya havnt"....¦LOl i had already told the forum in a posting that i just got mine, so Im slightly botherd, becvos its civil servants that read our claim forms...(thats what Ive heard) and that bothers me a lot......Y isnt it a doctor???? anyone have any info on that bit??? MONICA we neeed u, she knoes the lot...tc Amelia and stay Pos xx
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Date: 25.04.2010
From: Amelia
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Lol it's ok Jill and i really appreciate your honesty on it all, i never realised that civil servants read our claim forms thats really disgusting and you are totally right it should be a doctor that reads them. Hope you don't have no problems with yours grrrr the whole system gets me totally angry. It's just annoying as where i live people get it soo easily and they have no health probs eg my neighbour supposdly has a bad back but he plays football mows the lawns, washes the cars the list goes on and he got it no probs first time what a joke eh .. sorry i'm having a rant lol Thanks again and good luck with yours tc xxx
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Date: 25.04.2010
From: jill
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Amelia, in that case, U will get yours, if he gets it, then u deffo will, so dont u worry ok..., think it must depend on areas.....tell u a little story LOL...a friend of mine works in the benefits depts etc,chasing up ppl that r on the sick, jobseekers and the like, anyway a Soliticor had been unwell, and deserved his benefits etc, but then got well, and Totally forgot to tell the benefits dept that he was now back at work, well, and earning in region of £25,000!........they chased him up, and becos he admitted it, due to so much work as a Very 'Important' Honest Solicitor(LOL) they let him offff with it!! he had been claiming a further year of benefits!! he lied, but got away with it!!....
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Date: 25.04.2010
From: Abbie
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Hi Jill! Sounds like you had an awful time you poor thing! I guess I just get nervous coz they make you feel like a criminal for just applying eh? I hope things come good for you soon hun and keep us posted XXX
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Date: 01.05.2010
From: Amelia
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Got a letter this morning i have a DLA doctor coming out wednesday eeeeeeekkk! Feeling a bit nervous now. My mum has just got me an electric toothbrush and ordered me a few arth aids i dunno how i have managed all this time without them :D will keep you all updated on what happens wednesday Take care all xxx
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Date: 01.05.2010
From: Sally
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
hey, good luck Amelia on Wednesday. Just tell it like it is - you can't do any more than that. What aids has your mum bought you? Interested to know if you recommend any of them :)
take care and let us know how it goes.
xx
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Date: 02.05.2010
From: Lynn B
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Good luck on wednesday Amelia you aint got nothing to worry about tc xx
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Date: 02.05.2010
From: Amelia
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Thanks i think i am just a worrier lol Hiya Sally my mum has brought me a thing that helps me turn the taps and a jar opener thingy lol they are really good and they are nice bright colours too and she also got me a light weight kettle yay i can make a drink again :D I found a website (www.funkyarthur.co.uk/) which has some really cool gadgets but will have to wait until get paid first too skint at the mo. tc x
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Date: 02.05.2010
From: Verity
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Hey Amelia, Ive seen some ded good things on that site. I want one of those bendy long handled back scrubber things. They look great!! Does all add up though doesnt it!!
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Date: 05.05.2010
From: mel
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
good luck for tomorrow!!!!!!
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Date: 05.05.2010
From: Sally
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Hi Amelia, hope your visit goes well today. Let us know how you get on. What is the make of your kettle? Looking for a lightweight one myself.
thanks.
xx
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Date: 05.05.2010
From: Amelia
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
hiya sally thanks i will let you know later what happens. It's a morphy Richards and it's got a really big handle on the top.
xx
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Date: 05.05.2010
From: Jeanie
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Just to say good luck Amelia - though luck shouldn`t really come into it, it`s your entitlement !!! p.s. Have all your drugs scattered over the room - make it look like a chemist shop :)
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Date: 05.05.2010
From: Amelia
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Thanks jeanie, can't leave my meds out tho as my children will get them! but i do have my bf here and he does everything for me :)
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Date: 05.05.2010
From: Jeanie
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
oh wonder if he can get a carer allowance too :) I`ve had RA for 25yrs and only applied for DLA in Feb of this year - got it straight away with no problem so it seems a crazy system where some have to really fight for it !!
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Date: 05.05.2010
From: Amelia
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Had my home visit and i think it went really well, he was a young doctor and made me feel really relaxed so i am going to remain postive and should hear something in the next 4 weeks. He asked me a few questions like what i can or can't do and examined my hands and feet it was nothing like i expected lol Thanks for all your kind messages and will let you know what the outcome is xx
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Date: 05.05.2010
From: Lynn B
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Amelia I am realy pleased its over for you,We shouldnt have to go through all of this, anyway you relaxe and take it easy. tc xx
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Date: 05.05.2010
From: Jill
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
well done amelia, yes your bf can get carers allownace....mine does..and he works x
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Date: 05.05.2010
From: Amelia
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Subject: Re: Home visit !!!!
Hiya Jill i was thinking about that carers allowance as he works ... so will look into that. Thanks again everyone xx
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